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The culture surrounding sexuality was also different. During the first semester of eant freshman year, I engaged in casual hookups often. But by the spring of that school year, I had stopped.

The best way I can describe it is that I wanted something more profound. I got more fulfillment out of nights spent engrossed in philosophical discussions, having heart-to-hearts with friends, and working on art projects.

I wanted a relationship that would fulfill me emotionally, intellectually, and physically — and purely physical relationships were fun, but starting to feel incomplete. They told me sex and love were very intertwined for women, so it was hard for us to enjoy sex without an emotional bond.

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Actually, I felt quite distant. That was precisely part of what I disliked about it. As a cognitive neuroscience major, I happened to know that sex can release bonding-related CChute for people of Womwn genders. So here are some explanations for why I and other women, as well as many people of other genders might choose not to have casual hookups — that have nothing to do with biological gender differences.

One possibility I first learned about from the book The Ethical Slut is that women are less likely Woman want casual sex Red Chute engage in casual hookups because they involve being in an intimate setting with someone they may not be able to trust.

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The possibility of getting assaulted was definitely on my mind when I sought out hookups. My friends and I would text one another to make sure we were okay if we ever went home with anyone after a party.

During my freshmen year, my cousin and I met a group of guys at a party. I thought one of them was really cute. Wonan

We stood outside and talked for a while. Afterward, I excitedly went back to his apartment. After making out for a while, he told me to give him oral sex. I said no again. He pushed my head downward.

I told him not to push me. He said he never pushed me. He insisted once more.

At that point, I felt like a royal pain in the ass. I felt it was easier to just do it than to keep arguing. And I told myself I liked it. Afterward, as we talked to his roommate, he got behind me and made a humping motion to show off.

I spent a long time believing that this encounter was consensual. I thought being pressured into sex was just something women had to deal with.

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But it made me more wary of future hookups. After all, that guy had seemed so sweet and innocent. Who else could unexpectedly pressure me, embarrass me, and treat me like a conquest? My experience is extremely common. Even when women are not sexually assaulted, they often deal with partners who treat them like objects.

Going home with someone at the end of the night is a gamble for anyone, especially women and other gender minorities, who are more likely to be sexually assaulted and constantly told to protect themselves from assault.

Let me make it clear that my experience with casual hookups, particularly in college, exists within a set of cultural norms that apply particularly to cisgender men and women Cgute Woman want casual sex Red Chute with each other.

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Remember the guy who insisted I perform Married women wanting sex in Southington Ohio sex on Woman want casual sex Red Chute He refused to perform it on me — which he had the right to dobut the asymmetry of his expectations was telling. And a lot of women I knew had experienced the same. The oral sex gap could partially explain the orgasm gap between straight men and women, which is larger in casual hookups than in relationships.

In hookups, men have three orgasms for every one a woman has. In relationships, the ratio is only 1. One studywhich unfortunately stuck to Woman want casual sex Red Chute gender binary, found that adolescent girls actually lost friends when they had sex, while boys gained friends. That belief stigmatizes normal human behavior for one gender.

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Your number of sexual partners says nothing about you. But it powerfully shapes the way I think of myself. And I grew up in a secular, liberal environment.

This is not the worst of it — just standard, society-wide sex-shaming. I maintain that there was more to my decision to forgo casual hookups than sex-shaming, but the more I think Reed it, the more I realize how much the Womam double-standard played Woman want casual sex Red Chute it.

I could want an emotional connection with sexual partners without reducing that desire to female hormones. This could just be how I was, as an individual. My reasons are much deeper than that. I prefer more intellectually stimulating, emotionally intimate, trusting, secure, communicative relationships.

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